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Why Are Black Women Scaring Off Black Men?

Strange piece with a strange title at the link below...

http://www.thestateof.com/

Feel Free to discuss.

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outcrazyophelia
Jan. 11th, 2007 03:58 pm (UTC)
"I-and many of my smart and independent sisters-are out of touch with our feminine center and therefore out of touch with our men."
I really, really, resent this quote.
polymexina
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:16 pm (UTC)
dude. i'm completely flabbergasted by it, know what i mean? like, it's wrong on so many levels.

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yobachi2003
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:03 pm (UTC)
Uhh ohh!

I'm just going to get some popcorn and sit back and watch the bloody bashing.
kristiangrrl
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:10 pm (UTC)
I thought we talked about how that site is full of shit.
kristiangrrl
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:11 pm (UTC)
*clicks the link*
OH HELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL NO.

Y'all kiss my feminine black ass for showing me that shit.
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And you know what? - thewayoftheid - Jan. 11th, 2007 04:16 pm (UTC) - Expand
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thewayoftheid
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:16 pm (UTC)
You love me. You really love me.
Going to graduate school is a good goal and an option that previous generations of blacks have not had. But sometimes the achieving woman will place her boyfriend so low on her list of priorities that his interest wanes. Between work, school and homework, she's seldom "there" for him, for the preliminaries that might develop a commitment to a woman. She's too busy to prepare him a home-cooked meal or to be a listening ear for his concerns because she is so occupied with her own. Soon he uses her only for uncommitted sex since-to him-she appears unavailable for anything else. Blind to the part she's playing in the problem, she ends up thinking, "Men only want one thing." And she decides she's better off with the degree than the friendship. When she's 45, she may wish she'd set different priorities while she was younger.

LMAO! This was bullshit 15 years ago and it's bullshit now. I love how dude tried to make this shit seem current, tho. That was really cute.

recumbentgoat
Jan. 11th, 2007 06:55 pm (UTC)
Re: You love me. You really love me.
lol! Why can't guys be there for their partners?
veronicaheather
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:18 pm (UTC)
"Throwing ourselves into work seems to fill the void without posing a threat. But like any other drug, the escape eventually becomes the cage. To make the break, we need to do less and "be" more.

So...working to eat and live is a drug now?

well then fuck this I'm going home to be barefoot and get pregnant!

I'm not preaching a philosophy of "women be seen and not heard.

oh rly?
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thewayoftheid
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:29 pm (UTC)
Hoooooooooooooool' UP.
Ty you know I love you like Mariah Carey loves wind machines but I'mma have to disagree with you just a tad.

Ladies: We're (men) aren't that fucking complicated. Alot of sisters are single because 1) they're too busy hunting after a dude with material shit instead of a dude who will treat you with respect. Not saying a guy with good credit and money CAN'T do that BUT, most of the time ya don't bother seeing the signs before you dive in. Where does that leave you in a few months....either single (again) or in a fucked up situation.

I always hear about these women but I've never seen them with me own eyes. I'm beginning to think they're like unicorns nshyt. Most women aren't materialistic golddiggers just like all dudes aren't abusive trophy wife chasers, and we get caught up in this type of thinking it's a bad look for us all.


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bellarisa
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:22 pm (UTC)
Why does being in touch with your femininity have to mean leading your life according to what your man dictates? I'm a submissive in the BDSM community and I *still* think that's baloney.

As for letting a man lead, the waltz can't be compared to life in general. Life is a partnership and you'll work *together* if you have any hope of making things work. My man didn't lose interest when I was working full time AND in school full time and only saw him in my dreams, he dealt with it. and made sure I had clean clothes and something to eat. And that's not because he's not black, he just loved me and had some sense and knew how to amuse himself. And that my degree would make both our lives easier, which it did.
Are folks really this shallow? That's a shame if that's true.
toodani
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:35 pm (UTC)
I just may beat you for posting this article. I haven't even read it. The title let me know it's full of shit. I refuse to take the blame for society's view of black women in relation to black men.
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isle_of_lanai
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:40 pm (UTC)
I'm not reading that mess. The title alone is ridiculous.
abrownskinlady
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:41 pm (UTC)
This is crap. Can someone define feminine? I think not. Here's this same old argument my great grandmother made about how black women don't now how to be "feminine" and take a side seat to men. Nah I cant worry about cooking, cleaning, and seeing to a man's needs. That sounds like caring for a child.
evilwonderbra
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:43 pm (UTC)
Wait...does she even have a man? I mean, just curious...
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cjs1981
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:52 pm (UTC)
Re: If I may....
and women aren't obsessed with looks? Puh-lease.
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seanpadilla
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:51 pm (UTC)
"In too many cases, when dealing with men, you will have to sacrifice being right in order to enjoy being loved."

I stopped reading after this point. A man should be humble enough to admit when he's wrong, *especially* in a relationship. If anything, I'd give more of my love to a woman who's NOT afraid to call me on my B.S.
papi
Jan. 11th, 2007 06:43 pm (UTC)
t3h r34l.
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*back in love AGAIN* - mendemama - Jan. 11th, 2007 08:27 pm (UTC) - Expand
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dyvinesweetness
Jan. 11th, 2007 04:57 pm (UTC)
*farts*
toodani
Jan. 11th, 2007 05:04 pm (UTC)
baaaaaasically


*fang pi's*
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thewayoftheid
Jan. 11th, 2007 05:00 pm (UTC)
You know what this thread needs?
"You're cute for a dark-skinned girl."


*runs*
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polymexina
Jan. 11th, 2007 05:29 pm (UTC)
...

BOO!!!!

**watches all the black men hide**
yobachi2003
Jan. 11th, 2007 05:36 pm (UTC)
LOL - hide? - whatever.

I was already previously told by these Ladies that my opinion on such issues doesn't matter. So I'm just watching and talking it all in; but I'm here.

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kittylarock
Jan. 11th, 2007 06:11 pm (UTC)
i'd like to take solace in the fact this was written 15 years ago but the truth is i know like 45% of black folks still believe this shit.
acidcookiegirl
Jan. 11th, 2007 06:24 pm (UTC)
Dontcha just luuurve the Victim Blaming aspects going on here? *gag*
senecasaurus
Jan. 11th, 2007 06:11 pm (UTC)
ah, the Moynihan Commission Report version 2.32173645274383

no one piece of research did so much for making Black women want to squeeze the very life out of 'educated' Black men.
cumaeansibyl
Jan. 11th, 2007 06:27 pm (UTC)
You know they throw this at women of all races every few years or so -- we're too ambitious, we're scaring the men off, men prefer women of inferior social position because they figure they can get taken care of that way (seriously, they did a study on powerful men and found out they all wanted to marry secretaries and shit because those women take care of men's business for a living).

What I want to know is, how come every time there's a societal conflict between men and women, we're ALWAYS the ones who must be doing something wrong?

ritahritahritah
Jan. 11th, 2007 06:50 pm (UTC)
wow, it's 1907.
recumbentgoat
Jan. 11th, 2007 07:01 pm (UTC)
Damn. I blink and a good drama conversation came and went. Stupid job.

Now that Beyonce is out of the way...can we go back to talking about how fine JHud is and what her next career move is and what she'll be eating for breakfast?

Because a stalker wants to know.
recumbentgoat
Jan. 11th, 2007 07:02 pm (UTC)
shit. I can't even get on the first page either. smh I'm all over here on the second page with the rest of the latecomers.
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cindel
Jan. 11th, 2007 07:05 pm (UTC)
Wow my self-esteem just hit rock bottom.
yobachi2003
Jan. 11th, 2007 07:34 pm (UTC)
Why do you say that?
littleeva
Jan. 11th, 2007 08:09 pm (UTC)
I don't think anyone's at fault really.

When you live in a society where women are supposed to look like Halle Berry and men are supposed to be as rich as The Doland, folks are bound to be fucked up.
loomissimmons
Jan. 11th, 2007 08:51 pm (UTC)
Joy Jones = coon
Joy Jones of the Post is the same coon who wrote the "Marriage is for white people" piece back in March 2006. Good to see she's still bitter.
senatr7
Jan. 12th, 2007 06:35 am (UTC)
Re: Joy Jones = coon
Ugh. I remember that trash.
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